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i really wonder if there is ever a good way to end a relationship. hurting each other with all u have, be it true or not, will not help to salvage the relationship in any way. i always believe that there is always a good way to end a r/ship, like both parties thinking that they are not really suitable for each other. though sometimes only one party feels this way, it doesnt mean that it cant be ended in a good way.
remember reading mind your body regarding relationship, like there should be check points to a relationship, knowing if ur relationship falls under the catergory of toxic relationship...and i tink it's kinda important in every relationship...
saying hurtful things only hurt one another. both are sad. so wad's the point of making fond memories that both had spent tgt bad...y cant a couple put and end to a relationship by remembering the good times, bear in mind the things dat caused the r/ship to fail and not repeating them when they start a new relationship? but it only applys to some relationships... dont u tink it's painful to remember how u have been hurt and not how u had been loved, remebering the way it ended sadly but not the happy moments spent tgt, remembering the hurtful words said in the fit of anger and not feelings that are beyond words. remembering the flaws and not the beauty that u had once seeked for and also see in each other?
everyone do change, u are changing, i am changing, ur frenz are changing, ur enviorment is changing....just like ur figure and physical appearaces, some ppl see subtle changes in ur figure while some cant, some appreciate the changes while some dont like it or some don even care abt it, when wel-maintained, it keeps in good shape, when not, it goes out of shape.....sorry for the nonsense...but well...everyone is changing. when a relationship fails, it not just one party's fault, putting the blame on the other, finding fault in the other party, takes much more efforts cos it requires unpleasant feelings, y not use this energy to reflect on urself, are u dat perfect? y not change for the beta, it's good for urself, good for the people ard u, LIFE HAS TO GO ON.
it's like never-ending to blame one another for something that had happenED....if u feel that the other person has changed, y din u let him /her know when u feel it? or is it after breakin up, then u feel tis way? then probably, u may not have been observant enough, if not, u would have notice tis changes and stopped it or it's just mere excuses for puttin the blame on the other party.
the way to make the other party feels guilty is not by scolding him or her endlessly, be it true or not, hating him/her, but to be nice to him/her in return, which is difficult. but when u are able to to treat the other person nicely, guess u would not want him/her to feel guilty. saying hurtful things to one another will do each other not good....
y cant one choose to be more magnanimous...more forgiving? like when u look back at tis relationship, u will feel that u had done ur best, giving in ur best and u had ended it in a way u will not regret it cos u had put in ur v best till the end. learning to let go at the right times is really important for both's happiness.
